Logical, structured, & emotionally avoidant

At your best: Deeply present, accountable, sustaining

At your worst: Guarded, disengaged, avoidant

Under stress: Gets logical and walls-off

Overview:

You process everything logically first, keeping it contained. Your logical world feels safer than risking emotional exposure.

When you're at your best: You're deeply present and emotionally available while maintaining clear boundaries, balancing self-trust with openness.

When anxiety takes over: You withdraw behind logic and structure. You become overly accommodating and hide your needs, or get rigid and self-critical, using discipline as armor.

What this looks like:

Personal growth: Stay emotionally present even when uncomfortable. Share before you have it figured out. Ask for support instead of defaulting to self-reliance.

Expert Tools for Lakes

Use the Relationship Tension Tool below to navigate relationship challenges from your best self, and the Emotion Regulation Tool to hold on to yourself while you work through difficult emotions.

Relationship Tension Tool

Emotion Regulation Tool